Two main issues are in play here: honesty and uncommunicated expectations.
First, your husband offers an explanation for his behavior that is possible, but not highly believable.
If the dulcet tones of a modem dialing up get you in the mood, the video above might be a welcome return to how things used to be.
Stumbled upon at the Found Footage Festival, this introduction to cybersex was released in 1997 on, naturally, VHS.
Second, there's the issue of expectations you two have not discussed.
(If not, you might be one of those chat-room bots our mothers always warned us about.)This video feels centuries rather than decades away from today's Wi-Fi and Tinder and 3D-printed sex toys.People assume that because they are with a person they know pretty well, they also know how their mate feels about these topics. Sit down with your husband to have this discussion.If he has sexual desires that he talks about with women online, then ask him to tell you what those are. Are there risks that you might be willing to take in terms of new behavior?That way you have the opportunity to say, "Yes, I'll do that," or, "No, I won't." You can also ask what prompted him to think that he was doing right by you in this marriage by finding sexual satisfaction online. Your husband may have sincerely thought that he was not straying from your marital vows, or he may be using the technicality that there was no physical contact to dodge the issue that he feels sexually dissatisfied in the marriage.Evaluate yourself as well: Have you been shutting him out sexually? In either case, talk about what sexual fulfillment means to both of you.
As many as 8-10% of users, however, become hooked on the intensity and accessibility of Internet-driven sex and experience significant life problems as a result.